We all know that life comes with struggles, but it really has been feeling like too much this year. Let’s face it – 2020 SUCKS. We all want to believe that 2021 will be SO. MUCH. BETTER. And, hopefully that will be true! But, why wait for months at the hope that simply turning the calendar page or ringing in the new year to feel better? And let’s really think about this…Haven’t you tried that before? And here you are. Hmmmm….
Chances are there have been things you’ve been struggling with and putting off for months or years but 2020 has really done a great job at bringing them to the forefront. And this year, there’s just not as many distractions available to allow you to keep ignoring them.
Maybe you are having more trouble avoiding
- Your inner critic – she can get pret-ty loud when there’s less noise in the background to drown her out.
- Flashbacks or unwanted memories of trauma (or even just embarrassing or shame-filled scenes you’d rather not think about). See my EMDR page for more on this…
- The fact that you actually hate your job/boss/coworkers.
- The irritating things your bf/spouse/kids do that seem to be happening all the friggin time now
- Your imposter syndrome. Someone is surely going to figure out you’re a fraud. And SOON.
- Your lack of boundaries. Everyone is driving you up the wall, but is it really their fault if you haven’t said anything (or said it clearly…or followed through)???
- Your loneliness. These days that is harder than ever to avoid, and you don’t have to actually BE ALONE to feel this way. In fact, it’s often lonelier when you’re with others but don’t feel understood or seen by them.
- Your spending habits. Harder to overlook when there are packages arriving at your door every day and you don’t even know what you ordered 3 nights ago at 12:30am simultaneously watching your 6th hour of Netflix (“Are you still watching?”) and eating a bag of Doritos.
Or, maybe you can easily avoid the things that are hardest for you right now – hooray!
Maybe you’ve always been anxious at any sort of “event”, but now there aren’t any events so you don’t need to worry about
- Making an excuse for why you can’t go to the thing you said just yesterday you’d go to.
- Arguing with yourself in your head for hours about why you HAVE to go, then why you CAN’T go, and back and forth again and again.
- Telling yourself not to say something stupid, talk to much, or drink too much to ease your anxiety.
- Hating what you see in the mirror, trying on every piece of clothing but never feeling “good” about yourself.
But guess what? This whole pandemic thing WILL eventually end, and then what? It’s likely going to be more difficult to put yourself back out there, not less. Unless you decide to try something new.You know, like getting some help from a professional who helps people with this shit on the regular 😉
Here’s the good news:Fewer distractions = more time to ACTUALLY GET YOUR SHIT TOGETHER.
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